We all have them, don’t we?
Those thoughts that are a little more than the little niggling worries of our everyday lives. The ones that keep us up late at night, or hold us back from moving on. The ones with pointed teeth and chilling eyes. The ones which, if they were human, would totally look like that scary woman from The Ring with raggedy hair and a serious case of resting bitch face.
Whether it’s the aftermath of a divorce, a death, crippling self-doubt, a health concern, an addiction; there is simply nothing more terrifying than having to face your demons head on.
The very word ‘demon’ is enough to strike terror in the hearts of the most courageous of people. It’s usually the one we keep hidden, relegated to the back of our minds and memories because we’re scared if we let them out we won’t be able to coax them back into their cage.
“Never trust a demon. He has a hundred motives for anything he does … Ninety-nine of them, at least, are malevolent.”
Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 1: Preludes and Nocturnes
It’s OK to be scared of the monsters lurking in the dark, or in the past. Since we were kids we’ve been afraid of something, slept with a light on because of the monster under the bed, and then, as we grew up, our fears were replaced and exaggerated. The bogeyman manifests itself in the real world, becomes a broken heart, an illness, an event that takes on a great awfulness. It shakes our very existence.
But it’s what we do with these demons that counts. After all, without demons, there would be no angels.
All well and good in theory, but how do you put this into practice?
I mean, you could go all out like the bad ass women in Charmed – all magic spells, twin sets and extremely white teeth – or you could take a look at my Guide To Training Your Demon below.
I don’t profess to be a great demon hunter, but I am trying my hardest to stand up to mine.
- Identify Your Demon
Sometimes it can be difficult to put your finger on just what it is that is keeping you awake at night. Identifying the issue will be half the battle.
If you’re really honest with yourself, your demon will easily slink out of hiding without the need for a line up.
Isolate the demon in safe area.
- Sit Your Demon Down For a Chat
Some demons are easier to tame than others.
Occasionally they might be coaxed into conversation, but more often than not they’ll spend the time wreaking havoc in your home, drinking all the wine and trashing the place like a crazy toddler.
Sitting down with your demon might feel like a terrifying prospect but it might just be the best thing you ever do.
- Find Your Solution
Demons are slippery customers who will try and wriggle out of agreements.
You may find that once you have made the decision to eradicate said demon, you might need back up. Sometimes enlisting the help of a friend will suffice, other times it might be important to bring in the professionals. And I don’t mean The Ghostbusters.
If your demon is persistent, don’t be afraid to seek medical advice. Sometimes just talking it over with a person trained in the art of slaying, can cause the demon to disappear into a wisp of smoke. If the Demon wont go after rational conversation, don’t be afraid to bring in the reinforcements.
- Face Your Demon Head On
While commencing battle with your demon seems impossible – often with the right frame of mind and help sought in step three – demons will take themselves off with their forked tail between their legs.
Occasionally, battle will ensue. But don’t worry, training is readily available and you will most certainly be the victor.
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